Don’t get me wrong, I’m really really lucky that I have a husband that is so hands on when it comes to parenting. He’s always been fab with kids and it was one of the qualities that really attracted to him.
In saying this though, there are always days where one parent feels they’re doing more than their fair share of parenting duties for the day!
A typical day for me is:…
– Feed Isla her first bottle at 6am
– Try and get her back to sleep for a bit
– Get up with her at 8am
– Get her changed and ready for the day
– Get myself ready
– Play with her for a bit
– Go to baby group/swimming/anything out of the house!! And give her the next bottle
– Come back to house
– Get Isla to nap (sometimes a mission in itself!)
– Tidy Isla’s things
– Clean house (a few times a week)
– Do the washing (most days)
– Give Isla her next bottle
– Hang washing out
– Make dinner – Make Isla’s bottles
– Probably do bath, bottle and bed routine with Isla
– And then spend loads of time on the blog…feeling like a bad wife most nights!
A typical day for the husband is:
– Get up
– Get ready for work
– Go to work
– Come home and play with Isla for a bit
– Maybe do bath, bed and bottle routine! – Maybe make Isla’s bottles…
So that’s how it stacks up at the moment i.e. I win on the hard day front! Don’t get me wrong, I know it’s not his fault that he has to work really hard and has a lot of revising to do on this course/exams to take but sometimes it really gets to me in the evening when I’m beyond tired.
I find that if he’s not there at all I get on with things no problem. It’s when he’s around and unable to help that I get a bit frustrated!
It’s then that the silly comparing who’s had the hardest day can start. These days that doesn’t happen so much but in the early days, fuelled by zero sleep, it became a daily ritual to moan about who had the hardest day!
I honestly found getting up and going to work and working hard all day much easier than my day as a mum! I love being with Isla and I love that I can have all this time with her at the moment. It’ll be really hard when I get a new job and go back full time and I’ll definitely crave the time that I’ve got with her now back. However, I do have my moments where it just feels relentless and a bit like groundhog day.
At the weekends it’s a bit different and it’s lovely to get a bit of rest. I have to say the husband is very good at making me breakfast and bringing me a cup of tea in bed, bliss!
Does anyone else feel like this? Does it ever become a competition in your house over who’s doing the most?!
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A twenty-something, full time working, mum of two, with a love for all things cat, cacti and scandi related.