I can’t seem to escape pregnancy at the moment. Fact. Whether it’s a new scan popping up on my Facebook feed to pregnant women on the TV, it’s everywhere!
I seemed to have reached the stage where people are beginning to think it’s ok to start asking about baby number two.
Whooooooah hold up!
Don’t get me wrong, I do want more kids. Ideally three. Just not right this minute.
I want to enjoy this stage of parenthood and being a parent of just one. Being able to devote all my attention to one child and give her all the love and attention she deserves before jumping on the roller coaster of pregnancy again.
Due to moving whilst I was pregnant, I had to find a new job when I finished my maternity leave. I enjoy the job I’m doing and would definitely want to be very established in that role before I even thought about more children. There’s also the issue of added childcare with another child. That don’t come cheap!
And there’s also the matter of timing. Fitting a new baby in around the routine we have already. Our routine will be all up in the air when Rob goes back to sea at the end of this year too so we’ll have to take that into account.
To be perfectly honest, another reason I have is a totally selfish one. I’m still not quite over the whole birth and first little while of having a new born. Not in any sort of dramatic way, just in a ‘not ready to repeat the whole experience’ way! Those were tough times. I always expected it to be tough but wowzers the first six weeks were very hard work.
In saying all this, I did love being pregnant. Fair enough I suffered from horrible morning sickness and nausea for 5 months, had to have physio for hip problems and suffered crazy insomnia at one point but I loved it. I loved my bump, I loved the kicks, I loved the way I looked pregnant so I would be super excited to be pregnant again when the time is right.
I also do love newborn babies. The squishiness. The tininess. The cuddles. The excitement of all the firsts to come. Everything really! It will be really lovely to have a newborn again.
We took a while to get pregnant with Isla and would ideally like something like a 2.5 year age gap between her and another baby but we’ll see if it happens that way.
At the end of the day, we’ll have another child when the time is right and when it’s meant to happen. When it does happen we will be absolutely over the moon and Isla will be an amazing, albeit bossy, big sister.
To be honest, it’s probably all this 16 and Pregnant I’m watching on MTV that’s putting me off as it reminds you of all the really tough bits about having a newborn!!
How long did you wait between baby number one and baby number two?